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5-Minute Low Prep Activities for Kids That Actually Work
We all know the exhaustion of the “constant trial” happening in our heads. We are so busy trying to be the “perfect” parent that we forget we are humans who need to sit down, take a breath, and just be. I have realised that I don’t need to be a full-time entertainer to keep my…
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The Trial Inside My Head: Why I’m Finally Putting Down the Red Pen
If someone else spoke to me the way i speak to myself, I would call it emotional abuse. I would tell a friend to walk away from that relationship; I would recognize it as toxic and cruel. But because the voice lives inside my own skull, I call it “accountability.” I hold myself to standards…
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The War Between the “Big Picture” and the Dirty Dishes.
I know the checklist of gratitude by heart. I have the “shoulds” perfectly memorised: The sun is shining. My daughter is happy and healthy. I have a safe home. I have people who love me and listen to me vent. If I were a character in a book, this would be the point where I…
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How To Deal With Toddler Melt Downs (Most of the Time
Before becoming a parent, I thought tantrums happened because children were being difficult. Now I know better. Sometimes my child is tired. Sometimes she’s hungry. Sometimes she’s overwhelmed or overstimulated by big feelings she doesn’t know how to explain. And sometimes if I’m honest, I’m overwhelmed too. Toddler meltdowns can make even the most patient…
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8 Ways To Build Confidence (While Still Figuring Life Out)
For most of my life, I lived with a quiet, persistent suspicion: everyone else has a secret that i missed. I’ve spent years scrolling through social media, watching carefully curated lives unfold on a screen, and feeling the stinging ache of being “behind.” I compared my messy, unpolished reality to everyone else’s highlight reel and…
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The Default Parent and The Perfection Trap
There is a distinct kind of exhaustion that has less to do with physical labour and everything to do with carrying the invisible weight of a household. It’s the reality of being the “default parent.” To be the default parent means you are the Chief Operating Officer of everyday life. You are the one who…
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The Invisible Timeline
Most of us walk through adulthood carrying a hidden document in our minds. It is unwritten, unspoken, and completely fictional, yet we treat it like a a binding legal contract. I call it the invisible timeline. It is the strict, internal schedule we create for exactly when our lives are suppose to reach a certain…
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The Performance of Being Good
Somewhere along the way I confused being good with being everything. Good mothers don’t lose their patience. Good partners don’t complain to much. Good women don’t need reassurance. Good people don’t drop the ball. So I performed it. I performed calm. I performed capable. I performed selflessly Even when I was exhausted – especially when…
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The Social Media Spiral
It doesn’t start dramatically. It starts with a heavy sigh, a quiet moment on the couch, or a five-minute break between tasks. I pick up my phone. Just a scroll. Just a bit of “down time”. But within minutes, the air in the room feels thinner. I feel behind. I’m behind on motherhood. Behind on…
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The Myth of Having it All Together
When we are children, adulthood looks like a fortress of absolute certainty. We watch the adults around us move through the world with an assumed authority, assuming they hold a secret map we haven’t been given yet. We look at teachers, parents, and older siblings and think. They know exactly what they’re doing. We imagine…
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