When you’re a mum, self-care can feel like one more thing on an already, impossible to do-list.

We’re told to look after ourselves, but nobody explains how to do that when you’re running in broken sleep, carrying the mental load and constantly putting everyone else’s needs before your own.

The truth is, self-care in motherhood doesn’t have to be expensive, time consuming, or instagram worthy.

Sometimes the smallest things make the biggest difference.

1. Stop Waiting For a Whole Day To Yourself.

For years, I thought self-care meant finding hours of interrupted time.

The reality? Most mums don’t have that luxury.

Instead of waiting for the perfect opportunity in, look for 5 minute moments throughout your day. A hot coffee, a short walk, your favorite playlist. A podcast whilst cleaning, or sitting outside in the sun for a few minutes with some peace and quiet, all count.

Small moments add up, they slowly fill your cup overtime.

2. Create a “No-Guilt” List.

Make a list of things that help you feel recharged.

Maybe it’s reading a book, watching a comfort show, taking a bath, or grabbing take away instead of cooking.

When you’re overwhelmed, choose one thing from the list without talking yourself out of it.

My “No-Guilt” List

• A cup of tea by myself when it’s hot.
• Take away for dinner on a hard day.
• A minute to write down what’s on my mind.
• A bunch of fresh flowers for the kitchen.
• Sitting in the sunshine for 10 minutes.
• A documentary before bed.
• Listening to a podcast while cooking dinner.
• A long shower without rushing.
• Calling a friend to just chat.
• Going to bed early isn’t of finishing chores.
• Letting the laundry wait until tomorrow.
• Taking a walk by myself.

3. Lower The Bar SomeTimes

Not every meal has to be homemade.

Not every toy needs to be picked up as soon as they’re done with it.

Not every task needs to be done perfectly.

Sometimes protecting your energy is more important than maintaining impossible standards.

4. Move Your Body For You

Exercise doesn’t have to mean an intense workouts.

A walk with the pram.

Dancing in the kitchen.

Stretching while the kids play.

Yoga that you can involve your children in.

Movement can be a way of caring for yourself rather than another thing to achieve.

5. Ask For Help Before You’re Drowning

Many mums wait until they’re completely overwhelmed before asking for support.

Try asking sooner.

Whether it’s your partner, family member, friend or childcare provider. You don’t have to carry it all along.

And sometimes even just talking to another mum who gets it, helps.

6. Protect One Small Ritual

Choose one thing each day that is just for you.

Maybe it’s your morning coffee or tea before anyone wakes up.

Maybe it’s skincare after your shower.

Maybes it’s a few pages of a book each night.

These little rituals remind us we’re people too, not just care givers.

7. Speak To Yourself Like You Would A Friend

Most of us would never speak to a friend the way we speak to ourselves.

When you’re feeling overwhelmed try replacing criticism with compassion. (Trust me, I know it’s hard, but it works)

You’re doing your best.

You don’t have to be perfect.

You don’t have to do everything.

And you deserve care too.

8. Add A Small Treat To Your Grocery List

Self-care doesn’t always have to be a big event.

One simple thing that helps me is adding a small treat to my grocery list every week. It might be my favorite tea, a block of chocolate, a fancy coffee, some flowers, a small treat just for me.

It’s a small reminder that I matter too.

Motherhood can feel like constantly buying things for everyone else, Sometimes it’s nice to have something waiting that’s just for you.

9. Make Time For Adult Interaction.

As much as we love our children, mums aren’t meant to live in isolation.

Finding time for adult interactions can make a huge difference to your mental wellbeing . Whether it’s a coffee with a friend, a phone call while the kids nap or your when you’re driving. A platter with a friend. A mother’s group, or even a quick chat with another parent at the playground, connection matters.

Sometimes filling your cup isn’t about getting more time alone. It’s about feeling seen, heard and understood by another adult.

7 Day Self Care Challenge:

Try my 7 day self-care challenge for mums on the below link! Let me know how you go.

https://canva.link/selfcarechallenge-formums

Final thoughts

Motherhood asks so much of us.

It’s easy to become so focused on filling everyone else’s cup that we forget our own is running empty.

Self-care isn’t selfish. And sometimes the best self care isn’t a bubble bath or a face mask. Sometimes it’s buying yourself that chocolate, sending the text, taking the walk, or asking your friend for help.

The little things count.

And in motherhood, those little things often become the things that help us keep going.

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