Category: writing
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The Loneliness of Seeing To Much
Sometimes I wonder how people move through life so loosely. I watch them walk through a day without a mental checklist running in the background. I watch them ignore a tone shift in conversation, or leave a task unfinished without it gnawing at their peace. I see them exist in a room where tension is…
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The Trial Inside My Head: Why I’m Finally Putting Down the Red Pen
If someone else spoke to me the way i speak to myself, I would call it emotional abuse. I would tell a friend to walk away from that relationship; I would recognize it as toxic and cruel. But because the voice lives inside my own skull, I call it “accountability.”
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The War Between the “Big Picture” and the Dirty Dishes.
I know the checklist of gratitude by heart. I have the “shoulds” perfectly memorised: The sun is shining. My daughter is happy and healthy. I have a safe home. I have people who love me and listen to me vent.
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How To Deal With Toddler Melt Downs (Most of the Time
Toddler meltdowns can make even the most patient parent question everything. I’ve had moments I’ve felt embarrassed in public, frustrated at home and completely unsure if I was handling things the right way.
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8 Ways To Build Confidence (While Still Figuring Life Out)
For most of my life, I lived with a quiet, persistent suspicion: everyone else has a secret that i missed. I’ve spent years scrolling through social media, watching carefully curated lives unfold on a screen, and feeling the stinging ache of being “behind.” I compared my messy, unpolished reality to everyone else’s highlight reel and…
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The Invisible Timeline
Most of us walk through adulthood carrying a hidden document in our minds. It is unwritten, unspoken, and completely fictional, yet we treat it like a a binding legal contract. I call it the invisible timeline.
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The Performance of Being Good
Somewhere along the way I confused being good with being everything. Good mothers don’t lose their patience. Good partners don’t complain too much. Good women don’t need reassurance.
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The Social Media Spiral
It doesn’t start dramatically. It starts with a heavy sigh, a quiet moment on the couch, or a five-minute break between tasks. I pick up my phone. Just a scroll. Just a bit of “down time”.
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The Myth of Having it All Together
When we are children, adulthood looks like a fortress of absolute certainty. We watch the adults around us move through the world with an assumed authority, assuming they hold a secret map we haven’t been given yet.
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How to get your Toddler to Clean up (Without the Meltdowns)
Usually, those words are met with one of three responses: Immediate tears, and a dramatic loss of the use of their legs, or a tiny person running in the opposite direction.
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